Recovering From Abuse
and What Happens Next

Recovering From Abuse

Limping toward triumph.

Written by a survivor of a difficult divorce, who spent time in jail despite no finding of abuse, no allegation of criminal acts, and no issues of late alimony or child support payments, this book is for the abused man.

No, it is not a research-oriented assessment of societal pressures that impose great pressure on men. Excellent books and movies exist for that purpose. It is also not a treatise based on standard mental-health assessment thought patterns, which are designed to first seek a diagnosis then provide treatment according to known therapeutic protocols. Here, the author sidesteps academia and provides direct instruction for the confused, forlorn, and severely damaged fellow man, aware that when you are dying you need rescue not validation or theory.

It begins with a plea to end an abusive relationship promptly instead of throwing good energy after bad while trying to salvage something toxic.

Next, it covers the psychological issues that draw many men toward entering relationships in which they are exploited.

It also describes flaws in the modern mental-health profession and why we the skeptical men should be wary.

It continues by offering psychological tactics that are apparently original in this book and are probably valuable to reputable professional counselors. How to interact with female people? That subject is covered too including why the author refers to them as female people and not as women.

Finally, it notes the theoretical limit of cognitive-behavioral therapy and what to do about it.

Specific topics covered include:

1 A new explanation for fear when men hesitate to approach women

2 The corruption of normal male-female learning of male-female interaction patterns

3 The limits of science and systematic analysis

4 A theory of why some men actually prefer abuse, but don't know that fact consciously

5 How to protect oneself from being overpowered by sexual thoughts

6 The rigged roulette wheel and its consequences

7 The theoretical limit of cognitive-behavioral therapy.

The writing style is for ordinary men, without abstruse words or needless attention to abstract concepts. It is, however, condensed: It is the opposite of light breezy styles in which you read numerous paragraphs and extract little meaning. This way, although the first time you read it you will find it heavy going, you can review it later very quickly and easily.

Bonuses: There are two appendices. One shows an explanation for why the advent of television has put pressure on people (including men) to become more near average, and the other highlights a fundamental flaw in capitalism that cannot be easily overcome by regulation (and a proposed solution for it).

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